Children thrive on clarity and consistency.
I know I am a strong person but it really does suck sometimes. At best they just try to include you in the community, and at worst you are constantly told that you'll be welcome "when you're ready.
Then on one of his lighter weeks when we get some quality time together and text more I reinvest myself and the resentment disappears because I think things are progressing into a real relationship That's also great advice about how to talk to him.
Most of us were suckled on that teat too.